Failure – noun
- lack of success.
- the omission of expected or required action.
- [insert your personal definition here]
Have you ever been called a failure? I certainly have. In the bodybuilding world, competition is fierce, serious, and tough. For some people, it’s even a matter of life or death. People literally bring themselves within arms distance of death to get on stage and bring home a trophy. So imagine what it’s like for someone who competed in 8 shows and never placed – that was me. I had the word “failure” cast in my direction time and time again.
“Failure is giving up!” You’ve heard that before, right? Well guess what? I gave up. I pulled out of several shows just weeks before even though I had trained for months. The failure flag came flying in my direction, but I still shoed it away. I pulled out of shows to focus on improving my health and mental state. I could have gone to extremes to get myself stage ready – but for me, compromising my health would have made me feel like a failure.
My competition history is completely unimpressive, but I refuse to feel like I failed. I met some of the most amazing people through the competition circuit; I’ve traveled across the country working events with the amazing ProMera Sports team. My favorite clothing company named a sports bra and gloves after me. This year I even landed in the pages of my favorite fitness magazine. All those losses on the stage labeled me as a failure in other people’s eyes, but never in my own. I shifted my focus to the positive things, which led them to escalate more and more every day completely overshadowing the “failures” on stage. So what’s my definition of failure? Letting other people’s opinions of failure overshadow your own feelings of success.
Someone else can call you a failure; And that’s fine. Just because you’re a failure in their eyes does not mean it’s even remotely true. Look at yourself. What does “failure” mean to you? The second you feel like a failure it is because you allowed yourself to feel that way. Define failure – don’t let it define you!